Buying your first sex toy can be a daunting experience. What feels good? What’s best for a beginner? Should you spend a lot or start with cheaper options? What is even available? Well if you’re thinking of making your first purchase, here’s everything you need to know.
Don’t Be Embarrassed
Times have changed and you no longer need to feel awkward buying toys to enhance your sex life. With the phenomenon of movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, social media and the internet as a whole, sex isn’t a taboo anymore. When you let go of that awkwardness and negativity around sex toys, you open yourself up to explore the wonderful world of sexual pleasure, be it on your own or with a partner/s.
Choose a respectable online store
Online stores mean you no longer need to quickly duck into a sex store hoping no-one saw you, or have an awkward conversation with a stranger about your private desires. Now you can shop from the comfort and privacy of your own home. There are loads of online sex stores around and like all things, there are good and bad. Find a store that has:
- A variety of well-made products. You’re looking for toys that are made of durable, non-toxic materials and look like they’re good quality
- Product reviews. Reviews take the guesswork out of buying toys. Find out what other people liked/didn’t like about the toy you’re looking at to see if it could be right for you
- Blog posts, information and live chat where you can ask questions or advice from specialists who can really help
- Discreet postage and delivery. There’s no point ordering in the privacy of your own home, only for the postman to deliver a package that gives your secret away. Make sure your chosen store delivers products in discreet packaging, with no external branding or clues as to what’s inside.
Play With Your Hand First
Before you go out buying a sex toy, it’s best to learn what you like first and what better way than with your own hands. Do you prefer clitoral stimulation, g-spot stimulation or both? Does anal play get you off? If you’re a man, do you want to replicate sex or just spice up your normal wanks?
There are millions of sex toys out there for every desire, so learn what gets you going and then find a toy that will enhance that. If you love clitoral stimulation, you’ll love a vibrator. For internal vaginal stimulation, why not try a dildo or love egg. For those who love anal play, a butt plug or prostate massager is a great place to start. If you know what you like but still don’t know what toy’s best, drop us a line or talk to us on live chat and we’ll be happy to help.
The material of your new sex toy is important for your hygiene, experience and the lifetime of your toy. One of the best and most popular materials for penetrative toys like dildos, butt plugs and vibrators is silicone. Silicone can be sterilised, comes in an array of colours and can be soft or firm. It is generally more expensive than other materials, but it feels great and will last longer.
Soft materials like CyberSkin, rubber and jelly feel more life-like but they’re harder to clean and can’t be sterilised so sharing is a no-no unless you use a condom. Materials like glass or steel are very popular as they are much harder, easy to clean and can be used for temperature play (heating or cooling your toy for unique sensations)
Dildo’s, ben wa balls, cock rings, masturbation sleeves and nearly every other sex toy out there feels better with lubricant. A lubricant can prevent friction or pinching and helps your toy slide and glide more comfortably for a better experience.
The only thing to bear in mind is to make sure you use the right lube for the material. Water-based lubricants are great for softer materials like silicone, rubber or jelly. Silicone lubes are great for steel, glass or plastic toys. Don’t use silicone lube with softer materials however as it can damage some materials.
Try Your New Sex Toy With A Partner
Whilst sex toys are great masturbation aids, they definitely aren’t just for solo play! We always suggest using a new toy alone first so you can get to grips with it, but once you’re comfortable, why don’t you share it with your partner. Sex toys are great for making sex even better, or for mutual masturbation but make sure you talk about it with your partner first!
Naughty Butt Nice stock a range of sex toys for men, women and both. Our expert team are on hand 24/7 to help with any questions, or to provide advice for the right toy for you so get in touch and we’ll be happy to help.
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