Sex toys have become increasingly popular with couples looking to enhance their love lives, they’re no longer a taboo. If they have piqued your interest, this post will help you discuss sex toys with your partner as the best things in life are shared. You never know, they may be thinking of having the same convo with you!
Bite The Bullet And Start A Conversation
For some, talking about sex or sex toys is a squeamish conversation that may be difficult, we understand. Society has been conditioned to think of sex and everything that surrounds it as “dirty” or “bad”, but sex is neither of these things. It’s completely natural, beautiful even and none of us would be here without it!
For your first talk, choose your timing wisely. Start a discussion when you’re both calm and relaxed and ideally doing something you both enjoy. Some people think that the best time to start a conversation like this is in bed, but we wouldn’t advise that. Discussing sex toys before or after lovemaking can make your partner feel inadequate. We recommend you have the chat in neutral territory outside of the duvet. It feels less pressurising that way and gives your partner time to think things over without feeling rushed.
Bringing up sex toys can make your partner feel like what they’re doing isn’t good enough. To avoid this, choose your words carefully. For example, telling your partner you want to try a vibrator during sex can quickly make him feel unsatisfactory. Instead, try to suggest the use of a toy to enhance what is already an amazing experience. Maybe tell him something you love that he does already, then suggest a toy that would enhance that feeling. After watching a movie like Fifty Shades of Grey, you could suggest the Fifty Shades Of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit to enhance your foreplay sessions.
There are thousands of different sex toys out there, that do a million different things. If you’re new to using toys, sometimes it’s best to experiment on your own first. Pick up a couple of beginners toys to try on your own so you can find what you like and don’t like. When you’ve found what works, slowly introduce them into your couples playtime. Start small with something like a Blindfold or a Love Egg and see how they make playtime better, then work up gradually.
Keep The Conversation Open
Introducing sex toys into your lovemaking is a gradual process and one that needs ongoing communication. To make it work, keep the conversation open and without barriers. Once you’ve started using toys, ask your partner if they have any fantasies or toys they’d like to try. After having the initial conversation, following talks should be a lot easier. Stay open-minded, learn each other’s limits and desires and enjoy, a wonderful world awaits you!
Naughty Butt Nice stock a range of sex toys for men, women and both. Our expert team are on hand 24/7 to help with any questions, or to provide advice for the right toy for you so get in touch and we’ll be happy to help.
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